Shhh

How often have you heard someone engage their mouth before they put their brain in gear? It is not a pretty sight. Too often there are people that cannot come up with a reasonable or intelligent argument and they just resort to being hurtful or digging up something forgotten from years back in someone’s distant past. Think before you speak or, if you don’t have something constructive or helpful to say then don’t say anything. This should be advice for people in the public spotlight as well as us common folk. Maybe it is because of the fast paced society that we live in but time should be taken before some people speak. Think about what you say and who you are going to say it to.

We even do the same thing when it comes to our email. I have been guilty of that in the past. It is better to click “save as draft” until you can think about it and then maybe change the text or just delete it. A lot of pent up anger can be delivered and released when you hit that send button. It is so much easier to do because you are not face to face with the person.

I think that everybody deserves a little time before we say something that we might feel bad about later on. Once it is said it cannot be taken back. You can apologize but it has already been said and the impression has been made. While you are saying it, it might feel like a justifiable point that you are making but is it being made in the correct matter or just out of spite? Small minded people defend their actions by just using spite and hurtful feelings and then they have nothing to support their actions except for more spite and pain.

I have been accused at times for letting someone walk all over me, there are times when being quiet and taking the abuse is more prudent than elevating the situation. Being a Nice Guy I have learned that from experience. If someone is aggravated to the point of no longer making sense, what can you say to change this persons attack? Nothing. You could put forward the most logical retort only to be confronted by more vitriol. It is not worth it. Not everyone on this planet is equipped to be on a debating team and will therefore not be able to see a situation logically from both sides. Therefore, they do not engage their brains before they put their mouth in gear, and they never will.